Preparation during pregnancy is very important. It is beneficial to be open and honest with the older child and mention during the pregnancy that the new arrival will be good for the first child. The parent can make comments, such as, "it will be so nice for you to have a little brother (or sister) so you two can play together." Share responsibility. Point out that you will need the older child's assistance in helping to raise the soon-to-be-born baby. Try not to have the pregnancy itself become an issue. Being pregnant should not come between you and the first child or an excuse not to attend to his or her needs.

While pregnant, Mom should encourage the older child to take on more independence whenever possible. This will help prepare the older child for his or her new role as the older sibling in the family. Gradually make adjustments inside of the household so that the older child is prepared for changes. If, for example, the child will move into a new room or share his or her existing room with a new baby, have the child participate in making the physical changes to the room with you. In that manner your child becomes part of the process and will adapt to the changes more easily.

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