The first time young children are left alone in a new environment is often the first time they attend nursery or kindergarten schools. Their reaction can be heartbreaking for a young parent who has the intention of nurturing their child and beginning their education. The child will often cry uncontrollably for the first several hours and appear to be inconsolable. The parent who lingers and observes this outburst is torn by conflicting emotions. Should I try and stay in the class with my child? Should I just go in and get him and forget about school "this year?" What possible answer can the parent, child and staff accept and understand?

The problem is referred to by professionals as "separation anxiety." It can occur at any age, but most frequently with children in pre-schools. It is most common in young toddlers around the age of two to three. Separation from the parent is traumatic for the child and the child can not adequately express their emotions verbally. Hence, the uncontrollable crying and even screaming that never seems to end. It can last for several hours, and extend over a period of one to two weeks during the first several weeks of school. Your child is trying to tell you, "I do not want to be away from you," and "This is a new and strange place and there are so many new faces and things here. I am afraid!"